16 Ways Real Men Treat Their Women

As I wrote this article, I realized that men sometimes say they are abused; if that be true, it is not nearly as often as women are abused according to statistics. I hope these 18 things will help those interested in becoming more the real men they could be. We need to realize that it is only by becoming more that more will come to us, more meaning in life, more happiness, and more success. 

One thing I’ve noticed, sometimes a woman will reject a real man for someone who is worthless and who mistreats them. I’ve never been able to understand that. For sure, they do it to their loss. When these women finally wise up, they often have children by these men and sometimes are left to be single moms. By then, those real men that pursued them before are no longer interested enough in them to deal with their baggage.

So, here are 16 things to consider to be a real man to your woman:

1. Real men NEVER abuse their women. 

According to statistics, 1 in 4 women experience severe physical abuse by their man, are sometimes raped, and sometimes become victims of sexually transmitted disease. Physical abuse includes slapping, pushing, shoving, and injuries such as burning, beating, and strangling. These are just a few ways women suffer abuse from a man who is able to overpower her.

2. Real men treat their women as equals.

When I was growing up in the 50s and then later getting married in the early 60s, men lorded it over women who often played the role of subservient. Most wives stayed at home and raised the children in those days because it was considered their assigned place. Some women worked out of the home and still managed to do most home chores and take care of the children. It was a male-dominated society where women were treated as second-class citizens. Even then, women had made much progress since Biblical times when women were no more than slaves to men. I’m thankful that those days are behind us, but women still do not receive the dignity and respect as equals that they deserve. It is past time for real men to give the credit to women that they deserve and to acknowledge their contributions to society.

• Real men encourage their women to be themselves.

One of the big mistakes men have made in the past is not accepting women for who they are but instead try to make them into something they are not. It is futile to try and change another person; it only creates resentment and always fails. The only person who can bring about a change is the individual committed to change and determined to strive to be more. The next item may shed a little light on what can bring about a change in another person without trying to force it.

• Real men encourage their women to become more by becoming more themselves.

I think it was Zig Zigler who said, “I don’t know if you married the right person or not, but by becoming the right person, you may have married the right person.” Two opposite things happen in a marital relationship depending on how the man acts: If he does not show love for his wife, it will drive her further away from him. On the other hand, if he does show her how much he loves her each day, she will draw closer to him. That is an innate trait that God put in women. It works the same when a man strives to become more; the woman usually follows suit and tries to become more, resulting in them becoming closer.

• Real men are polite to their women at all times. 

You may be one of those men who think your woman treats you wrong; if so, you again need to heed what Zig Ziglar said, “There will always be people in your life who treat you wrong. Be sure to thank them for making you strong.” You don’t have to be treated politely by others to be polite, but others are far more likely to treat you politely when you are polite to them.

• Real men take care of their bodies and keep themselves neat and clean.

It is easy to become slouchy and unkempt; this mainly happens to men as they age, but it does not have to be that way. The first thing women notice about men is how they look and their attention to hygiene. The I-don’t-care attitude does not work in today’s society if you want to be a real man who desires respect from your woman. Women don’t look for the most handsome man; they look for a man who looks as if he cares for his body and his appearance. Looking good does not mean you have to wear a suit and tie even though that is one of the looks women like in men. You can dress well and look good in casual clothes if they fit well, are clean, and in good taste. It is just the simple matter of taking pride in your health and your appearance.

• Real men always do what they say they will do.

When a real man says something, he means it. When he makes a promise, he always keeps it. He is careful about making commitments until he is sure that he can carry through on them. If a real man discovers he can’t carry through on a promise, he doesn’t give his word. Someone said it concisely, “A real man of integrity would be willing to face severe consequences rather than break his word.”

Building trust is determined not only by your words, but also by your actions especially by your reliability. Once your woman decides she can’t trust what you say or what your actions will be in any given sitiation, it is near impossible to build back trust. One of the most significant investments a man can make in himself is integrity. Integrity goes further than any other attribute in becoming successful whether in life in general or in relationships.

• A real man is fully committed to his relationship with his woman.

A real man of Integrity never cheats on his woman. He accepts that his commitment to his woman requires his full-time attention. His loyal devotion builds trust and gives her the security she needs to have the contentment in life she deserves. A solid relationship requires hard work to keep it healthy and stable, and it requires the nourishment and ongoing trust that the real man can bring. If you are a real man, you will remain faithful in all things, and your woman will realize that she can trust you, and she will respond to you in like manner if she is also a person of integrity.

• Real men are not lazy toward their women.

A wise woman knows that a lazy man in his own life will also be lazy when it comes to their relationships. A lazy man’s life is usually disorganized, and they have no motivation to change their circumstances for the better. When a wise woman meets this kind of man, she needs to run for her good and wellbeing. Don’t be deceived; if a man makes no effort in his life to be more, he will certainly make no effort for you or the relationship. 

Relationships don’t just happen; they require a lot of effort and work to make them successful, which a lazy man would never be willing to do. He tends to bail out when the going gets rough and leaves his woman to face it all alone. If a woman thinks she can change a lazy man, she is wrong and better be prepared to take care of him who is too lazy to take care of himself and who will constantly be mooching off of her. Wise women are looking for a man who has the same aspirations and qualities of life as she; otherwise, she knows she better not get involved.

1. Real men don’t ignore their women for the sake of sports and the guys. 

There is nothing wrong with enjoying sports on TV unless it means neglecting your woman for the entire weekend. Neither is there anything wrong with spending time with the guys unless it infringes on the time that should be spent with the woman in your life? Real men plan things both he and his woman can enjoy together, and that could include watching a football game together on a Saturday afternoon.

The woman in your life is significant. She is your best friend if you have built that kind of relationship with her. She is someone you can depend on when the guys in your life may be more interested in their own thing. To ignore her with the preference to pursue anything else will ultimately destroy the relationship, that includes your interest in sports when they become your primary interest, and it can also include a career when it requires all of your attention. The real man will recognize that a woman needs the love, attention, and companionship that only he can give.

1. Real men do not condemn, criticize or complain about their women.

Is there ever a time to condemn, criticize or complain? Of course, there are exceptions to most rules. However, those three things are uncalled for most of the time and can cause significant damage to a relationship. While constructive criticism is intended to help another person, all care must be taken to ensure that is what it is and not disguised as such with intentions to get back at a person. I’ve included those three things because men often do them privately and in public, which shows little dignity and respect for the person they are supposed to care for and love. 

1. Real men treat marriage as an opportunity to give, not to get.

Marriage is usually entered into with a list of vows to the other person, all based on a giving spirit. However, as the marriage progresses, those vows are forgotten or replaced with self-centered, selfish drives, which deuterates the marriage and often leads to divorce. I’ve often wondered why people can’t see that the marriage vows are designed to bring unity, resulting in happiness. Men, I think, sometimes fail to realize that their mate is on their side. Together, they are on the same team to pursue a life of meaning and purpose.

1. Real men put their family second only to God.

There is no outline in the Bible for marriage, but there are general principles, including priorities to be followed. God comes first, as we see in Deuteronomy 6:5, “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” How we live our lives is evidence of what our priorities are.  Our first priority should be to Almighty God, our creator, to love Him and serve Him above all else.

For those who are married, your mate comes next. The Bible teaches that a wife is to submit to her husband (Ephesians 5:22) (KJV), and then immediately after that, it shows the only way that can happen. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it, Ephesians 5:25 (KJV). A husband should follow the Biblical example: God first and his wife second. In that same way, wives are to submit to their husbands “as to the Lord.” So, likewise, the woman is to love God and then their husband second. Naturally, the children are the third priority, and men are the spiritual leaders of their families and role models to their children.

1. Real men help their wives with the children and household chores.

Keeping house and raising kids is a difficult task and sometimes dull, but it has to be done. It seems, in many cases, it is primarily a responsibly that falls on the shoulders of women, although it should be a shared one. The established basics of keeping house and the practical aspects of parenting include daily cleaning, naps, meals, baths, and bedtimes. These are not difficult, but they are never-ending daily challenges that go from daylight to dark each day. They leave little time for moms themselves. It can be more accessible when both parents are involved, since today both husband and wife work other jobs.

1. Real men do not waste the family income frivolously.

Men are to be the financial provider for their families according to Scripture: “But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel,” 1 Timothy 5:8 (KJV). According to statistics, “Overwhelming majorities say it is significant for men (86%) and women (90%) to have these [financial] qualities to be good spouses or partners.” There are several ways men fail to be good stewards of the family finances: The costly habit of smoking, drinking, gambling, and overspending on themselves at the expense of the family, to name a few.

1. Real men are real men for their women.

Women are programmed to find the strongest men as mates. They prefer a masculine man over a feminist, demasculinized, girly man; this is the way it is in the animal kingdom: females, due to survival instinct, are attracted to the most dominant males; this helps them to feel secure in a cruel, harsh world. Being an excellent, faithful mate is not confused with being weak. Real men will not tolerate being treated like doormats. Even though women like for their men to be kind and gentle, at the same time, they expect them to have confidence in themselves and be strong leaders. They are willing to follow and depend on such a man in every situation. It takes absolute confidence to stand up to the challenges of life but also, more than anything else also the strength that comes from a relationship with God.

Are you interested in becoming more of a man, a real man that treats their woman with dignity and respect? Here is the way: According to Scripture, God is the potter and we are the clay. He wants to mold each of us into the person He created us to be. Before He can do that, we must have a relationship with Him through Jesus His Son. I want to show you exactly how to have a relationship with God from the Bible. If today you feel that is something you need to do, Just CLICK HERE.