Personal Development Begins at Home…

Personal development expert Jim Rohm said, ”We attract success by the person we become” and I say that it begins at home in the way a husband treats his wife and vise a versa.

How to mend a broken marriage through radical change…

I saw a movie many years ago about a man who mistreated his wife and everyone else and had a bad reputation as a really bad person. His whole life was a mixed up and messed up with everything going wrong. He was indeed a miserable person. He had no relationship with his beautiful wife and their marriage had fallen completely apart. His wife hated him and so did many others.

One day he was driving and had an auto accident; he suffered a head injury which resulted in amnesia. He  could not remember his own name of anything about his past. He wandered around a small town in a daze for a while until someone helped him locate his family.

Because he could not remember who he was before, he completely changed and took on an entire new personality. He became the very opposite of what he was before and was kind and understanding as well as loving to his wife, taking her into consideration in everything as well as others around him. He could not believe it when told how he once was.

That is the kind of complete transformation that it takes to mend a broken marriage.

The Formula for a perfect marriage

Here is the formula for a perfect marriage. It is not my formula; it is God’s. Only God can give the formula because he made the woman to be as she is and the man to be as he is. A woman is designed by the Creator to respond to the man.

Women are only designed to respond in a positive way to their husband when one thing is present and that one thing has to be in place or there will be no submission.

If it is not in place the very opposite from what is intended takes place, the woman is repelled and moves further and further from their husband instead of being drawn to him.

It is the man’s responsibility to see that it is in place and God commanded the man to be sure that it was. He never assigned the responsibility of keeping a sound marriage to the woman. Therefore I must say that when a marriage goes wrong, and of course there are exceptions, it is usually because the man has failed to make sure this one thing is in place.

God said in Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, LOVE your wives even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it”.

When that happens and only when that happens will a woman likely submit herself to a man, unless forced to do so because of fear, true submission is always intended to be voluntary, people can be forced physically but never mentally; a woman submits to her husband because that is the way God designed her.

What woman in her right mind would not submit to a man who loved her so much that he would lay down his very life for her, only a fool?

What I just described to you above can and does happen but I’m afraid it is rare today in our selfish world.

The husband is trying to get what he wants and so are many wives. Men are not interested in a deal that requires a radical change in the way they live; instead they want an easy fix in their own favor where the wife is ready to hop in bed at their beck and call and submit to them, even though they themselves are about as far as one can get from loving them as Christ loved the church; I mean really are you kidding that they would be willing to lay down their own life for her?  Forget about that.

The relationship one has with their mate to a large degree determines the quality of their life. If we  don’t have a successful relationship at home, what good is success anyway; a bad relationship at home casts a dark shadow on anything else we may achieve.  That is why I believe that “Personal development begins at home.“

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