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“Success is something you attract by becoming an attractive person”, Jim Rohn.
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Attraction is powerful whether it is attraction marketing, or just becoming a more attractive person. Here are 5 ways to become a more attractive person and more successful. I’m primarily speaking to men since I’m a man and know how easy it is to get a bit lazy about appearance, but women also need to take heed, although their approach differs on some things.
First: Improve your personal appearance in 4 simple steps
I don’t know the rapper called P. Ditty, and never listen to his music, but I will say that he is one of the best dressers among movie stars and celebrities, if not the best. In an industry known for baggy pants and slouchy, ugly clothes, that is remarkable. You don’t have to dress like P. Ditty in order to look as neat as he looks, and you can look neat for a lot less than he pays for his clothes.
There was a picture on the Internet of a young man, already a multi-millionaire in the music industry, in concert, whose pants waist was at the bottom of his boxer shorts. Not only did he look soooo ridiculously unattractive, he also presented an extremely poor image to youngsters who idolize him.
No doubt the present trend of dressing fostered by the hip hop industry will go down in history as the worst dressed generation of all time. That is just my opinion and I’m sticking with it.
1. Take care in how you wear your clothes: I knew a fellow who worked part time where I worked. He was a senior in high school, and he came by work on his way to the Junior/senior prom, back when most schools had proms. He had on a nice Tux, but he had failed to wash his hands thoroughly before he buttoned up the white shirt, and there were smudges around each button hole. Also his shoes were scruffy and unpolished. Even with the tux he still had a poor appearance.
So here’s the deal: make sure that everything about the way you’re dressed is right and balanced. Here are five guidelines: Make sure that clothes are starched and ironed, neat, clean and matching, and shoes are clean, or polished. I’m talking about when you go out, of course, not when you are lounging around the house. It is super important when you go on a date, an interview for a job, to church, or wherever a group is meeting or present.
2. Keep hair and facial hair neat. If you wear long hair or a beard, they still need attention; hair needs to be clean and washed often and neatly trimmed. Beards need to be trimmed regular, and nose, ear hair and wild hair needs to be trimmed, or removed.3. A healthy diet, and regular exercise will do wonders for losing extra weigh, staying toned and adding confidence. It also clears the mind, adds energy, and gives a higher self esteem, and makes you feel great, and ready to take on the world.
3. A healthy diet, and regular exercise will do wonders for losing extra weigh, staying toned and adding confidence. It also clears the mind, adds energy, and gives a higher self esteem, and makes you feel great, and ready to take on the world.
4. Select appropriate clothes for the occasion. Many places today only require casual dress. Casual dress can be very attractive if done right. Select some attractive sport shirts and nice jeans. I like to have my shirts and jeans done at the laundry. I request the jeans to be heavily starched and creased and the shirts starched. If this is not in your budget, you can do the same at home. Neatly laundered clothes, a nice matching belt and polished shoes, or clean sport shoes make for a cool, sharp appearance. Stick with the tailored look instead of falling for the ill fitting slouchy hip hop look that is anything but attractive, and is sure to fall by the wayside.
Secondly: Drive a clean car
In some locals a person is judged by the car they drive, which in my opinion is way over the top, but for sure most anywhere you may live, you may be judged by how clean your car stays. It doesn’t have to be new or sporty, but clean is always in.
Thirdly: Be punctual
There is no such thing as being fashionably late as some would like to believe. Quite to the contrary, it is always tacky. It shows gross lack of consideration for those who have to waste their time waiting on you. A person who is consistently late has an unattractive reputation for being inconsiderate and undependable.
Fourthly: Be social
Wall flowers don’t have much fun, and are not attractive. Being sociable is taking the first initiative to reach out to others in conversation, and being relaxed and laughing often. Also being sociable requires showing good taste in what you say, and always shows consideration for others. Never attempt to be the center of attraction, but instead be involved and interact, not with just a select few but all present. It is so unattractive when a few form a click and exclude others. That sort of behavior is juvenile, and something you would only expect in grade school, or high school circles.
Fifthly: Improve your personality
A good definition of personality is: “The ‘personality’ is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.”
Perhaps the most attractive thing of all is an attractive personality, which goes even further than looks. It once was believed that personality was set by a certain age, and could not be changed. However, we know today that we have a great deal of influence and control over our personality; refining and molding its characteristics so as to become a more attractive person are well within our power.
It has been postulated that “approximately 85 percent of your success and happiness will be a result of how well you interact with others.” With that kind of importance it behooves us to refine our personality and make it attractive. Here are a dozen suggestions to consider:
- Be kind and outgoing.
- Show humor.
- Become a good conversationalist.
- Be a good listener.
- Respect others.
- Show gratitude.
- Complement when it is in order, but only genuine compliments, and don’t overdo it.
- Expand your attention beyond just a select few.
- Learn names and call people by their names as soon as you learn them.
- Show interest in what is going on in the lives of others.
- Don’t promote self.
- Don’t be an egotistical know-it-all.
Conclusion
Most people want to be attractive to others, but many do not know how. Incorporate the things above into your life and see the difference it makes. Not only will it make you a much more attractive person, it will also raise your self esteem and make success much more likely.
About the author: Jimmie Burroughs is a motivational speaker and author who has been involved in teaching Christian Personal Development for more than 30 years. There are hundreds of articles to help you on this website, Website Contents , in your person growth. Be sure to take vantage of the FREE offer to get the “Personal Development” eBook while available.
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